As your divorce is moving towards finalization, you are beginning to secure the details of the child custody agreement between you and your ex. While you feel confident about having arranged a workable solution, you are concerned about how to provide your children with reassurance about shared parenting between you and your ex. At Herrenkohl Law Office, we have provided support to many families in West Virginia as they navigate difficult changes in family circumstances. 

While you and your ex have valid reasons for terminating your marriage, it may be difficult or inappropriate to explain these reasons to your children, especially depending on their age and maturity. Navigating the complexities of giving them information without oversharing or encouraging them to form unrealistic or misled opinions, can be difficult and require time. It will also require you to modify your approach and the nature of your content to cater to the individual needs of each of your children. 

Another topic you will need to discuss with them is the reason you and their other parent have decided to share parenting responsibilities and what this will mean for them as children. According to parents.com, beginning conversations with a reminder to your children that both you and your ex still love each child unconditionally is paramount to a successful discussion. This focus on something consistent between you and your ex can provide reassurance and comfort. You should also discuss parenting basics with your ex so the two of you can be consistent in enforcing rules and consequences. Finally, avoid bringing drama into the equation and never speak ill of your ex in front of your children. 

When you are prepared to discuss shared parenting with your children, you can present the topic in a way that will provide them with comfort and anticipation for the future. For more information, if you are getting divorced, visit our web page.